Who Are You?

I had two calls recently with coaching clients and both of them surfaced gaps in understanding and embracing identity. These gaps were preventing them from living in alignment with who they are, creating “dissonance” in them and stopping their progress.

What Is Identity?

By identity I mean how God designed you. Your gifts, strengths, personality and every other trait that makes you unique. Who you are is key to deciding what you do and why you do it. Think about David and Goliath. When David showed up everyone was cowering in fear but David knew who he was and was willing to act knowing he was God’s man in that moment. When Saul offered David to use his armor, David found it was ill-fitting and decided to go with what he knew fit him. A slingshot and five stones. He was clear about his who, what and why. If he had tried to go to battle in Saul’s armor he might not have succeeded.

Let’s Unpack This

Having an identity gap will impact how you show up. It can feel uncomfortable showing up as your real self initially when you’ve been used to living with certain expectations from others or for yourself. Living this way takes a lot of energy and eventually the dissonance will wear you down. It’s also not unusual to feel like a fraud wondering “what will people think of me when they are used to me showing up in this old way?”

For instance, right now I feel like God has given me a program to help coaches grow a successful coaching business using a head and heart method. I’m having to embrace being vulnerable and sharing it in order to step into the difference God will make in the lives of others through me.

And this brings me to the last point I’ve observed, the identity gap prevents us from acting on what God has given us as a mission. This is your what.

Remember when God called Moses, he had a lot of reasons why he wasn’t qualified. I think if we truly understood our identity as God sees us, we initially might have the same response of Moses. But, but, but . . . and list why we aren’t qualified. That’s the identity gap. What was God’s response to Moses? “What is in your hand?” And that is the same with us.

How About You

If you are having trouble identifying or embracing your identity and would like to learn more about the process I’ve developed, please schedule a 15 minute call with me and let’s see if this is something that could work for you. If you are a coach who would like to move your business forward in a way that is authentic to you, please schedule a 15 minute call and we can discuss the head and heart journey process that I mentioned earlier.